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Wow, another one that just didn’t occur to me like my early days of learning self-defense-martial-arts, doah - avoidance and deescalation - doah. I have studied this for a while now and every thing I have studied always, always mentions some emotional issue leading toward conflict, violence and violent conflict. Wow, let me say that one more time, Wow!
I think back and find that I can relate almost all my conflicts to some emotional loss of control, in myself. Rory Miller calls our emotional side the monkey brain and I can understand that the monkey gets us into a lot of trouble or if already there exacerbates/escalates that trouble toward more - damaging ground. Ain’t that the shits?
Well, I was once saying that avoidance was a real big deal in self-defense and now I can, at the very least, add emotional self-control in there maybe higher or at least equal footing in the self-defense practices. Maybe look at all three as floating abilities that can be implemented according to the situation you face at any given time for any given moment - emotional self-control/avoidance/deescalation.
Read more from Marc MacYoung here:
"Take feelings out of it." by Marc MacYoung
Danger exists outside perception. But feelings can make you either blind to actual danger or perceive danger that doesn't exist. That is just one set of problems 'feelings' bring to this subject.
The second set of problems is most people don't realize how often their feelings are what got them into dangerous circumstances. In fact, their feelings are pressing the gas pedal and blinding them that they are speeding past the "Bridge Out" signs and crashing through barricades. Now you may not believe me, but it's often true: They're actually and legitimately surprised when they crash.
That's how powerful the myopia of 'feelings' can be.
The third problem is you can't understand violence dynamics until you remove feelings. Feelings and judgment come from the same parts of the brain. Once you start feeling about something, you stop thinking. Any rational thought about the subject is aimed at post hoc rationalizations about why your emotional and judgmental decision was correct. This instead of assessing the factors involved. In simple terms you've already prejudged from there all your thinking/behaviors/rationalizations are going to be based on that TRUTH(tm) that you decided on.
That last one, is way bigger than I can go into in the medium, but it is both huge AND it manifests all over and in all kinds of ways. But basically your feelings are not only blinding you to the actual circumstances, but they're keeping you from learning and/or making good decisions.
Primary Bibliography of Self-Defense (Some titles have RBC drills included):
MacYoung, Marc. "In the Name of Self-Defense: What It Costs. When It’s Worth It." Marc MacYoung. 2014.
Miller, Rory Sgt. "Meditations of Violence: A Comparison of Martial Arts Training & Real World Violence" YMAA Publishing. 2008.
Bibliography Articles on Self-Defense/Conflict/Violence
The main page leading to the articles I have chosen as a starting point to attain knowledge of conflict, violence and self-defense is: http://ymaa.com/articles/society-and-self-defense where you can navigate to the below or you can simply find a title below and click for direct access to the articles. Most of these are actually introductions to the references written by the authors themselves. It is advisable to start here then move on to the more in-depth stuff in their publications. This section will get you a beginning understanding necessary in phase one of learning self-defense.
Secondary Bibliography of Self-Defense (Some titles have RBC drills included):
Ayoob, Massad. “Deadly Force: Understanding Your Right to Self-Defense”Gun Digest Books. Krouse Publications. Wisconsin. 2014.
Branca, Andrew F. “The Law of Self Defense: The Indispensable Guide to the Armed Citizen.” Law of Self Defense LLC. 2013.
Goleman, Daniel. "Emotional Intelligence: 10th Anniversary Edition [Kindle Edition]." Bantam. January 11, 2012.
Miller, Rory. "ConCom: Conflict Communications A New Paradigm in Conscious Communication." Amazon Digital Services, Inc. 2014.
Miller, Rory and Kane, Lawrence A. "Scaling Force: Dynamic Decision-making under Threat of Violence." YMAA Publisher. New Hampshire. 2012
Miller, Rory. "Force Decisions: A Citizen's Guide." YMAA Publications. NH. 2012.
Miller, Rory Sgt. "Facing Violence: Preparing for the Unexpected." YMAA Publishing. 2011.
Miller, Rory. “The Practical Problem of Teaching Self-Defense.” YMAA. January 19, 2015. http://ymaa.com/articles/2015/1/the-practical-problem-of-teaching-self-defense
Elgin, Suzette Haden, Ph.D. "More on the Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense." Prentice Hall. New Jersey. 1983.
Elgin, Suzette. "The Last Word on the Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense" Barnes & Noble. 1995
Morris, Desmond. “Manwatching: A Field Guide to Human Behavior.” Harry N. Abrams. April 1979.
MacYoung, Marc. “Writing Violence #1: Getting Shot.” NNSD. Amazon Digital. 2014.
MacYoung, Marc. “Writing Violence #2: Getting Stabbed.” NNSD. Amazon Digital. 2015.
MacYoung, Marc. “Writing Violence #3: Getting Hit and Hitting.” Amazon Digital Services, inc. NNSD. April 20. 2015.
Elgin, Suzette. "The Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense" Barnes & Noble. 1993.
Elgin, Suzette. "The Gentle Art of Written Self-Defense" MJF Books. 1997.
Maffetone, Philip Dr. “The Maffetone Method: The Holistic, Low-stress, No-Pain Way to Exceptional Fitness.” McGraw Hill, New York. 2000
Strong, Sanford. “Strong on Defense_ Survival Rules to Protect you and your Family from Crime.” Pocket Books. New York. 1996.
and more … see blog bibliography.
Jahn, C. R. “FTW Self Defense.” iUniverse. Amazon Digital Services. 2012
Jahn, C. R. “Hardcore Self Defense.” iUniverse. Amazon Digital Services. 2002.
Bibliography of RBC Drills (Some titles have RBC drills included):
MacYoung, Marc. "In the Name of Self-Defense: What It Costs. When It’s Worth It." Marc MacYoung. 2014.
MacYoung, Marc (Animal). “Taking It to the Street: Making Your Martial Art Street Effective.” Paladin Press. Boulder, Colorado. 1999.
MacYoung, Marc. "A Professional's Guide to Ending Violence Quickly: How Bouncers, Bodyguards, and Other Security Professionals Handle Ugly Situations." Paladin Press. Boulder, Colorado. 1996.
Miller, Rory. “Drills: Training for the Sudden Violence.” Amazon Digital Services, inc. Smashwords. 2011.
Quinn, Peyton. “Real Fighting: Adrenaline Stress Conditioning Through Scenario-Based Training.” Paladin Press. Amazon Digital Services, inc. 1996
My Blog Bibliography
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